Everybody has their own dreams and desires for their life. Zach and I have our own dreams as well. Dreams for ourselves as individuals and desires for us as a couple. Sometimes it can be really easy to focus on our own dreams. We can easily become very selfish. However, whenever you truly, madly, deeply love someone, their dreams become your dreams too!
Sydney- I know for me, seeing Zach being so passionate about the things he loves gives me a passion for them as well. This summer I had the privilege of getting to work alongside him at Purley Gates Retreat in Texas. His passion for the camp was really inspiring to me. He was offered a job as Creative Director and I couldn't have been more proud of him! Because of this new job, we will be moving to Texas after the wedding. Originally, although I was very proud of him, it was hard for me to think about because Oklahoma has been my home forever. My family and friends are in Oklahoma. I wanted to graduate from Cameron and cheer for the CU cheer team for as long as I could. But, this will be my last year. It's a hard thing to accept. However, Zach is my home now. His desires are my desires. I know that God has amazing plans for us, and even though they weren't originally my dreams, they are now. I had to stop being selfish and thinking only about myself and my own desires. It was time to start focusing on God’s plan for mine and Zach’s life. Because, come July, Zach and I will become one. It's not just about me anymore.
Zachary- For myself, this dream has shaped up a bit differently. Ever since I worked at Purley Gates Retreat for that first summer as a lifeguard, I have had a desire in my heart to serve there using my degree. I firmly believe that it was by God that I received that desire. It is almost as if I cannot take a wrong step. Doors keep opening up, and they keep leading me right back to Purley Gates Retreat. It has been really easy for me to accept this dream for my life, because I have known for so long that it is where God is calling me.
This is where issues can arise. Since I have become so comfortable with this dream, I catch myself assuming that Sydney is as well. While I prayed for my future wife before we started dating, I specifically asked God that he would give her the same call as me. What I failed to realize was that probably meant God would have to ask her to give up some of her desires. For quite a while, I hadn’t ever stopped to ask Sydney what she thought about this move, or how she feels about it. Sydney has taken this all so well, and been so supportive, it almost makes it easy to forget that she is giving something else up. It has caused me to admire her even more, and increased my respect and joy for her. This situation has also opened my eyes, and helped me realize that I need to stop and build up Sydney. Just because I may be gung-ho for something, doesn’t always mean that will be her take, and I have to take time to consider that.
Dreams and desires are a major player in any relationship. Compromising those is also an inevitable event. Taking from our experience, it has been made evident that there will be times we give up our personal dreams, and then other times we get our own way. In either instance, it is always important to communicate and make sure that both people are riding the same train, and are ready for it. It is a relationship. There is no leaving one another behind.
Have an amazing day! May God bless!
"May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed." Psalm 20:4
Zachary- For myself, this dream has shaped up a bit differently. Ever since I worked at Purley Gates Retreat for that first summer as a lifeguard, I have had a desire in my heart to serve there using my degree. I firmly believe that it was by God that I received that desire. It is almost as if I cannot take a wrong step. Doors keep opening up, and they keep leading me right back to Purley Gates Retreat. It has been really easy for me to accept this dream for my life, because I have known for so long that it is where God is calling me.
This is where issues can arise. Since I have become so comfortable with this dream, I catch myself assuming that Sydney is as well. While I prayed for my future wife before we started dating, I specifically asked God that he would give her the same call as me. What I failed to realize was that probably meant God would have to ask her to give up some of her desires. For quite a while, I hadn’t ever stopped to ask Sydney what she thought about this move, or how she feels about it. Sydney has taken this all so well, and been so supportive, it almost makes it easy to forget that she is giving something else up. It has caused me to admire her even more, and increased my respect and joy for her. This situation has also opened my eyes, and helped me realize that I need to stop and build up Sydney. Just because I may be gung-ho for something, doesn’t always mean that will be her take, and I have to take time to consider that.
Dreams and desires are a major player in any relationship. Compromising those is also an inevitable event. Taking from our experience, it has been made evident that there will be times we give up our personal dreams, and then other times we get our own way. In either instance, it is always important to communicate and make sure that both people are riding the same train, and are ready for it. It is a relationship. There is no leaving one another behind.
Have an amazing day! May God bless!
"May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed." Psalm 20:4